How To Shine Your Light Even In the Darkest Of Times

It is certainly not easy being positive when everything around you trends towards negativity.  Those in a job search can easily fall into a depressed mood if they allow themselves to go there.  With rejection so evident for the job seeker, it behooves the candidate to always see the positive in every situation or else they will indeed be fighting off their demons.

Determine the thing that can and shall be done, and then we shall find the way.  – Abraham Lincoln.

I recently read an article about those who now find themselves without employment for nearly two years and the mood swings that they find themselves in on an on-going basis.  These people remarked that they have wavered through highs and lows and that they have decided that they must restrain themselves from getting too “pumped-up” or conversely too negative, because they just don’t want to continually experience extreme emotions.

What is so unfortunate for those in a job search is that, if you are lucky to get an interview you need to show the world that you are excited about this opportunity and that you can fill this void quite admirably.  It is your task to show that this opportunity can be a win-win for both parties, if only you were given the nod.  Because those who have been in such a routine for a lengthy time have received negative responses much too often, the candidate must pace himelf or he will again find himself recovering from “what could have been.”

Between the optimist and the pessimist, the difference is droll.  The optimist sees the doughnut; the pessimist the hole!  – Oscar Wilde.

It is easy for authors, pundits and coaches to all say you must be positive and optimistic through all phases of your job search, but how realistic is that?  Disappointment is natural, rejection hurts and life can be difficult at times but the secret is not to wallow in the sty of negativity for any length of time.  You must always look forward to tomorrow, despite the agony of the current day!

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.  Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. – Helen Keller.

Here are a few thoughts that might help get you through the job search routine:

*  Look at your current situation in one day intervals – as one day at a time.  Anticipate what positives are scheduled for tomorrow but in a scenario of indecisiveness and turmoil, plan for the near term and not well into the future.

*  It is vital to have a support system that is there for you when you need them.  Of course they are probably getting tired of your situation, after all you certainly are.  Thankfully they are there when needed and they know you would do the same for them in their hour of need.  We all need a pat on the back now and then.

*  Find enjoyable diversions from the usual routine.  Get your concentration off of the topic at hand.  Visit friends and family, you know those people you didn’t have time for when you were working 60 hour weeks a while back!

*  Finally, you need to find ways to keep your confidence high.  Write a journal or author a blog.  If you need to vent do so in private amongst family and friends, you never want to show the world your disappointment.  Sour grapes doesn’t portray you in the best of light – get over it and move on.

When you are asked if you can do a job, tell ’em, ‘Certainly I can!’  Then get busy and find out how to do it.  – Theodore Roosevelt.

The job search process is not an easy task.  It is a daily battle for superiority and a battle that you will eventually declare victory over – but it takes time and it takes initiative.  Keep at it, work at it and success will come your way!

Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has many – not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. – Charles Dickens.

Dan Borschke is a Certified Association Executive who has been a CEO for 3 distinct trade associations in his career.  He is one of only 230 Association Executives worldwide who has been granted the prestigious designation of Fellow by the American Society of Association Executives since 1986.  He currently is between positions and has written more than 50,000 words or 100 blog postings on the topics of job search and career transition.  He can be contacted at:

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