“I’ve always thought that people need to feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to them, to provide some light along the way.” – Leo Buscaglia
Whether it be your child’s Little League Baseball Game, a colleague’s candidacy for a new job, a spouse who has experienced a miserable day or a supervisor’s empathy for the work being conducted, your support and belief in the person are needed and vital for ultimate success. Too often we get so busy and so involved in our everyday life that we forget that there are people, close friends and colleagues who on occasion need a positive word. For many, our support is their only means to get through a tough day.
It has always been my policy, way before I needed it myself, to assist in anyway possible those who are looking for work. Not knowing where your future is taking you can be the worst feeling in the world and I have always believed that there is always something I can do to make the situation more tolerable. I will write recommendations, I will make phone calls and when in a position, I will assist in finding just the right position for those who are in a transition period. I have even hired a qualified friend who was out-of work for 2 years for a position. There is nothing more heartwarming and satisfying than assisting a friend or colleague who needs help.
During these difficult economic times, we all know of people who are aggressively looking for their next great stop in their career. If anything, the old adage “by the grace of God go I” should always be top of mind. We all need encouragement and support during our lifetimes and let’s face it – to receive you must also give. I am very thankful for the numerous people over the years that have been there for me and my family. During difficult times you truly know who those people are. These are the people who have priorities that include assisting their fellow man.
I am not an out-going religious person; I believe that the relationship between you and your Lord should be something kept close to your heart. However, I have been really touched by those who have contacted me over the last few months and mentioned that my blogs have assisted them during their difficult times. I can’t believe that more than 7,000 people are now in one way or another following these postings. It has been cathartic for me and if I have been of assistance along the way, I truly have been blessed.
I have been truly blessed, friends and colleagues who have called and written on a regular basis just to check in and see how I am doing. These are the people who I will go to war with and will remember until my dying day. These are the people who can get you through a difficult time as well as rejoice with you when ultimately you succeed – and yes, though at times it may seem improbable and unlikely, we all will succeed.
A recent e-mail humbled me deeply. The colleague mentioned what value a posting of mine was for him. He is very close to finding a new position and if an encouraging word gets him over the top – good for him! We all have different talents and abilities, let’s use them to help others.
Your friends, colleagues and contacts are asking for nothing more than your support. Life is much too hectic and we obviously have 1,001 things on our daily agenda, but we can always find the time to assist our fellow man. A good word, a pat on the shoulder or even a kick in the pants goes a long way.
I still remember a colleague a few years ago who was between positions. I was one of many who pointed him in the right direction and I was rewarded with a great bottle of wine upon being hired. Though he died soon thereafter at a much too early age, I am comforted in knowing that my little assistance during his hour of need was appreciated and made his final months a little easier. Life is much too short – be there for your friends and colleagues because in the very least, someday you will need your friends and colleagues to be there for you.
Dan Borschke is a Certified Association Executive (CAE) who has been a CEO for 3 distinct trade associations in his career. He is one of only 230 Association Executives worldwide who has been granted the prestigious designation of Fellow by the American Society of Association executives (ASAE) since 1986. He currently is between positions and has taken the opportunity to author more than 75,000 words and 125 blog postings on the topics of job search, career transition and association management.
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